Tapping with a Reluctant Client

by Baerbel Froehlin
www.smoothchanges.com
Colorado Springs, Colorado, USA

Silvia Hartmann’s EmoTrance Freedom Spells technique was recently featured in an article by Nicola Quinn from the UK. While she used it especially for meditation purposes, I have come to really love using it for clients, who are:

1. reluctant to talk about themselves

2. are unable to locate memories and connected
traumatic emotions

3. won’t access their emotions or
can’t for some reason do so

4. refuse to tap along during their sessions.

Example:

One of my clients is a severely traumatized young woman, having gone though years of abuse by her boyfriend, suffering of immense anxiety, never feeling safe enough to be able to trust. It was like magic that after our first session she decided that she could trust me, and so we are now having several regular phone sessions, in which I basically don’t know what she is doing on the other end of the line. She clearly stated that she was not ever going to repeat my tapping phrases and I don’t know for sure if she is physically tapping as I go through the procedure with her. It is very difficult to sense what to do next because there is hardly any feedback at all.

Here I have found the EmoTrance Freedom Spells technique especially useful. As I say the phrases very slowly with my hypnotherapist voice – slow, calm and soothing – I ask her repeatedly to breathe deeply and she seems to go into the trance I intended. The Freedom Spell protocol allows you to address different emotions with a repetitive, rhythmic phrase, while tapping the points:

All of my ______ [uncomfortable feeling], I now let you go
Soften and flow, soften and flow…

Finally she relaxes. Then suddenly she opens up and talks about certain memories that are now flooding her mind. I have bits and pieces to work with now. Each session is a tiny bit easier and we can work, letting EFT do its magic!

Baerbel Froehlin
www.smoothchanges.com