“I’m Not Good Enough to Get a New Job”

by Louise Woods
www.freeflowingenergy.co.uk
Exeter, UK

The client’s name has been changed to insure privacy.

Stuart came to me recently because he was feeling stuck. He wanted to get a new job and he was procrastinating. We started with some generic statements:

Even though I feel really stuck, I accept how I feel
Even though I’m not sure why I’m stuck, I accept myself anyway
Even though I’m procrastinating, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway

Stuart felt a little more relaxed and I proceeded by asking him the following questions:

Why do you feel stuck?

What is stopping you from going for it?

Has there been a similar situation in the past where you’ve felt the same?

We tapped on:

Even though I’m scared to move forward, I deeply and completely accept myself
Even though I’m anxious about changing my job, I’m open to the possibility it won’t be as difficult as I think it will
Even though every job I look at, I think I’m not good enough, I accept myself and my feelings

With further tapping we revealed all of his fears: Fear that he wouldn’t be good enough. Fear of the unknown – would his new job be better or would it be worse? Fear of letting go of the known, fear of whether he would enjoy a new job.

Fear is a major reason for keeping us stuck. Most of the time though, the fear is worse than actually doing it! EFT can really help us eliminate our fears. We continued with:

Even though I’m scared of changing my job, I accept how I feel about this
Even though I’m full of fear about changing jobs and I just can’t move forward, I accept all of my feelings
Even though I feel stuck and I’m too scared to take any action, I feel safer just staying where I am, I accept all of me anyway

Eyebrow: I’m stuck and I’m scared
Side of Eye: I’m full of fear
Under Eye: It’s just too scary to take action
Under Nose: I want to change jobs but I’m too scared
Chin: I hate feeling this fear
Collarbone: I can’t stop feeling this fear
Under Arm: I don’t want to feel scared
Top of Head: I wish I could let this fear go and take some action

Eyebrow: I’m procrastinating because I’m scared
Side of Eye: I’m afraid and I’m stuck
Under Eye: Changing jobs is too scary
Under Nose: I can’t change jobs because I’m afraid
Chin: I don’t want to make mistakes
Collarbone: I’ll embarrass myself if I try
Under Arm: I’m scared and I won’t do it right
Top of Head: I wish I could stop procrastinating

We tapped on all of Stuart’s fears until they were gone. We did some positive rounds to help the shift to a more positive outlook:

I’m open to the possibility it will be easier than I think
What if I just tried
Maybe it won’t be so difficult
Maybe I can start with small steps
What if it was easy
Maybe I can do it
What if I enjoyed getting a new job
I can do it

We focused on his feelings of not being good enough. We tapped through four rounds on this before it was down to zero. Stuart then tuned in the objections that were coming up for him. He said that he felt he wouldn’t have the freedom he has now and he was worried about the impact his new job would have on his family. There was disappointment about losing his freedom. We tapped on this disappointment and it cleared in two rounds. The worry about the impact of his new job would have on his family just went without us tapping on it directly. Stuart felt a big shift was happening at this point. He could feel “dust and cobwebs” being cleared in his brain! We stopped tapping for awhile and drank some water whilst Stuart integrated these changes.

Stuart had been playing a movie in his mind of being in an interview and it going really badly, with the interviewers saying, “Why are you even here – You don’t have the right skills.” It was time to check in on this movie. I had him close his eyes and really try to recreate this movie. He could not recreate this movie – instead he imagined the interview going really and actually enjoying it. Then he imagined the call to say he’d got the job and how much his life had changed for the better when he started his new job.

At the end of the session, Stuart was feeling calm and excited about the possibility of changing jobs. What a turn around!

Louise Woods assists her clients from her private practice in Exeter, United Kingdom. Visit Louise on her website: www.freeflowingenergy.co.uk

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