Editor’s Note: We discovered this article on TomsTapping, a group on Facebook. It is republished here with permission of the author.

Some of the most commonly reported symptoms of depression include lack of energy, feeling low, unable to muster energy to get on with the business of life and sometimes a sense that there is no sparkle or light to life.

We are beings of light, in the sense that we are, at our core, vibrating energy. When we, or our client, is experiencing depression there is a feeling that this light has been shut off, that we are living in a dull, slow, muggy darkness.

As practitioners we use the classic EFT protocols to look for the cause of the depression in beliefs, past conditioning, traumatic residue in the energy system, energetic toxins and so on.

We can also encourage our clients to raise their own inner light level, energy level and therefore change their feeling state through tapping by using an exercise such as the one outlined below. It’s a simple meditation that can be very useful for you or your client during the difficult low trough that very often accompanies a depressive episode.

Enjoy and feel free to copy and paste!

Awareness Of Your Breath

First of all take a seat on a comfortable chair. Find your feet on the floor and close your eyes. Gently put your awareness on your breath following the breath as you inhale and exhale. Do this for a few minutes.

After a few minutes allow the awareness of the breath to slowly expand becoming aware of your physical body. How you are feeling in this body at this moment? Make note of any areas of tightness, pain, fatigue, lethargy and gently scan the body from head to toe with this awareness as you continue breathing. Allow yourself to become aware of external sounds, smells, letting the attention expand naturally.

After a few minutes allow the awareness to go deeper into the muscles, tissues, organs and blood stream. You may see feel or know that your awareness is going deeper. Keep anchored in the breath and let your awareness sweep deeper and deeper into your body. Do this for a few minutes, relaxing into the exercise and giving up any sense of wanting to accomplish anything during the exercise.

Into The Cells

Now let your attention drop into the cells of your body. You may see an image of these cells, your light cells, your body of light. If you don’t see an image or feel anything, just allow yourself to know that there are billions of cells all with your unique DNA, blinking in and out of existence every second, all for your benefit, working on your behalf, all without question, this web of interconnected cells, this matrix of light energy.

Tapping and Focusing

Focus on the image of one cell, one in a billion. Make the image large and resonant, this building block of your life. Now gently begin tapping on yourself, Karate Chop (KC) first then following on with the other points.

Infuse this one cell with as much light, warmth, energy and love as feels right for you now. Take your time, tapping each of the points, turning on the Inner Sun, in this one cell, your inner light.

When you feel ready, let yourself imagine the infused light of love and harmony moving to your other cells. Use an image, feel it, or just know it. Let this image gently expand through your whole body, this whole body of pulsing light. Keep tapping as you keep with the image, allowing it to get as bright as feels right for you here in this moment. Allow yourself to feel that warmth, that love, that effortless light.

Stay with the breath and the image for a few more moments. As you come back to yourself in the present moment let yourself thank the light within. Take a few deep breaths and open your eyes.

Do this exercise once daily, preferably in the morning, as this helps you to attune your energy field to the light of day.

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Halloween…. it begins the long slide into the holiday season. Next is Thanksgiving, then comes Christmas and New Years. A lot of opportunities for socializing. This is fun and also terrible for many of my clients and women I know. There will be a lot of food and a lot of dressing up and sometimes a lot of comparisons and fears about how one looks.

I recently had a painful experience with someone whom I love who was really upset about having to go to a party and not feeling attractive. The more I tried to “convince” and talk to this person, the uglier she felt. I felt like I was in a trap. I realized, there is absolutely nothing and no one who could convince this person that she is beautiful. NOBODY. Even a gorgeous man (by her estimation) flirting with her would not change a thing. She would get temporary relief but it would never sink in to the bottomless pit of low self worth she was feeling. (I didn’t tap with her as it was not something she would do, unfortunately.) It made me really sad because to say that this was someone I cared about would be a huge understatement…. and then later I felt PISSED OFF. Because you know what I realized? This woman was just like me and so many women I know and work with.

I chose to work with body image, weight, self-worth and healing for women for a very good reason. It is my issue too of course, or has been to some degree or other over my lifetime. Though I feel I am a relatively confident and happy woman and love my body now, I am certainly not perfect, and things come up that trigger me, like this incident.

Healing is like peeling back layers of an onion. We heal many things and we are feeling good and then we get triggered by something and know there is more to clear. Well that is what happened here with me. I was grateful for the opportunity to go deeper into my own healing with this issue. I hope that we can all feel that way when something painful comes up. It’s an opportunity for more healing and growth.

Here is a simple process I use for this issue with clients.

The First Step:

Become aware that you are triggered and don’t brush it off. Pay attention to what is bothering you about having to get dressed up and socialize. Is it the clothes and how you fit in them? Is it seeing others and knowing they will say something about the way you look? Is there someone you judge yourself against? Do you wish you were taller, shorter, smaller, bigger (yes, that happens a lot too!), had different features, hair, etc. Be honest, and maybe write it out in a journal to tap on when you have time and space to address it fully.

The recent example from my experience: I was triggered by what my close friend was saying, how ugly and unattractive she felt and that she would never be the “ideal” woman next to all these model type girlfriends she had. She almost didn’t even want to go to the party at all… My first reaction was to justify, explain away how “wrong” that feeling was. Didn’t she know that nobody is the “ideal” woman and images in our society have changed so drastically over the years? I went into my body image rant about size and beauty and cultural ideals over the ages.

However, none of this intellectual explanation really touched the issue at all, of course. I also realized that I felt bad about how I feel I am not measuring up too. I couldn’t pretend that I wasn’t having a reaction in that moment. I felt bad about myself next to those women too…. sad but true. I am deeply aware of the cultural norms and standards and how ridiculous they are, still hurts, ouch. One more layer to peel back of healing. Good to know!

The Second Step:

Release the beliefs and pain of them. Do not skip this step please. I think sometimes we get intimidated by our beliefs and emotions thinking this one is “the big one” I’ll never be able to change it…

No. Not possible.

One thing that I have learned in all the years of doing this work is that any belief that isn’t total love and acceptance for ourselves- no really- is simply false.

So please give yourself a chance and use any and all techniques, especially tapping of course to begin to address your beliefs around attractiveness and beauty.

Tapping For Feeling Beautiful:

1. Start with how you really feel about the way you look. Say whatever you need to, get it all out. Write it down if need be and tap on each feeling it piece by piece. Examples:

Tap on the side of the hand and repeat 3 times whatever the predominant feelings are:

“Even though I feel unattractive right now… I love and accept myself”
“Even though I feel awful when I compare myself to others…. I choose to love, accept and forgive myself now”
“Even though I still feel unattractive deep down and like I’m not pretty enough… I should look like..xyz.. I choose to fully and completely love, accept and forgive myself.”

Through the points on the body:

“I’m not pretty enough”
“I’ll never look like those women (you can insert whoever it is that you judge yourself against)”
“I’m not xyz enough” (tall enough, short enough, thin enough, you name it)
“I’ll never be the right size or shape”

Repeat all of the things that you find yourself feeling about the way you look. Be specific with it.

I recommend doing several rounds of tapping through the points until you feel some release or it brings up a very specific incident for you where you felt unattractive when you were much younger. That is what you want to tap on next.

While I was tapping I recalled a locker room incident that literally ruined sports for me I think when I was younger. I developed early and was the only person I knew with dark skin. I felt like I looked so different and of course, weirder than anyone else. Kids. We judge ourselves against our peers but we often retain the wounds of those beliefs into adulthood even though our adult minds know better. Our hearts and subconscious minds don’t. That is why all the intellectual reasons we give ourselves why we should “know better” don’t work. We have to pull out those thorns that still make us hurt deep down.

Tapping on the memory of feeling unattractive that came up:

On the side of the hand:

“Even though I remember feeling like a freak in the locker room in 8th grade, being so much more developed than the other girls and looking so different from them anyway and being sensitive about that already… I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself for taking on this hatred and shame”

Through the points I simply tapped on all of the different parts to the memory:

“I felt so freakish”
“I developed early and felt so embarrassed”
“I was too different”
“I had dark skin and totally different features to begin with”
“I hated being different”
“I hated being so much bigger than them”
“I was like an adult and had to hide that”
“I hated it”
“I was so ashamed”
“Why did I have to stand out so much?”
“Why wasn’t I like them?”
Etc…

Once I could feel myself getting a lot of emotional distance from it I tapped in some positive beliefs:

“I love and accept myself as I am”
“I’m just right, right now”
“I love myself, I’m a child of the divine”
“I am beautiful just as I am”
“I love my skin”
“I love my voluptuous body”
“I am special and unique”
“I love being my beautiful and unique self”
“I’m blessed and lucky to be me”
“There will never be another me, ever in all of creation”

For good measure I tapped on all the things I love about myself. I recommend doing that as well. Go crazy. Are you a good cook? Do your friends love to talk to you and say you are kind and loving? Do you love your hands? Your eyes?

This one cleared pretty quickly for me and left me truly believing what my intellect was saying again about beauty.

I have done this exact same process with so many of my clients now that it is truly amazing. I wonder sometimes if any of us escaped our childhood and teen years feeling acceptable?

It’s not real, this whole beauty thing. It truly is in our heads and hearts.

Let’s let compassion begin with ourselves.

The Dalai Lama says: “The world will be saved by the Western Woman.”

I believe that we save the world truly when we save ourselves. Let the war with our bodies end now and let’s get on with spreading the love and compassion that we are all meant to share.

Blessings my beautiful sisters,

Sandy

Sandy Zeldes is a Certified EFT Practitioner & Certified Nutrition Consultant with over 7 years experience. She helps her clients find relief relief with weight gain, stress, emotional eating, food obsession, and poor body image. Visit her online at www.eatlikeagoddess.com.

What do we do when we have been through enough trauma in childhood and have created a need for a coping mechanism like food to deal with all the unresolved feelings and trauma? What is one of the biggest common denominators for so many of us? We think somehow we must have deserved to be treated the way we were treated, it just feels so well, personal. We end up hating ourselves and usually denying our feelings or “stuffing them” as a coping mechanism. It works pretty well and helps us to survive as children but of course as we get older it starts to be pretty tough to feel good when we don’t have access to our feelings. It can be the cause of so much stress, pain and suffering. The coping strategy that helped us survive becomes a thick heavy coat we wear in summer.

I see this in terms of emotional eating and using food to cope with this kind of suffering and really all feelings that feel overwhelming, even joy eventually.

In our society we also often develop a lot of beliefs about our bodies that can help to perpetuate the problem as well. This lack of self worth, coupled with the societal pressures and beliefs often overlap.

Example of the issue at work and how to release it:

I recently worked with a woman who shared with me her earlier childhood traumas having to take care of her very dysfunctional mother at the early age of 5 years old. As a child she had taken this on as something wrong with her and felt very bad about herself that she couldn’t do all that was required of her. In her current life she is using food very obsessively binge eating and has an expresses a lot of self loathing. Of course, how could a 5 year old do all the laundry, cooking and shopping? We know this in our adult minds, intellectually, but she was still carrying this fear, trauma and low self worth it seemed once we began tapping.

The beauty of EFT is in the reversal statement…. “I love and accept myself.”

Why is that so important? Why do we need to say it? Why does it help to “un-reverse” us? Because I think so often when we are “stuck” with a negative belief process or trauma, what keeps it so locked in place is our lack of acceptance and love. When we shine the light of love and kindness through acceptance on an issue, it is like the sun burning off the clouds. We realize it is not our fault. We can look at it and move on.

What we resist persists… with EFT, we stop resisting and therefore begin to release stuck emotional experiences.

We tapped on:

“Even though I feel worthless and like I have to always take care of everyone else first… what if I could love and accept myself now?”

“I have to take care of everyone else first”
“I am worthless if I’m caring for others”
“I come last”
“My worth is in what I can do for others”
“Nobody cares what I need, and neither do I”
“I had to do everything for mom”
“I can’t love myself or feel worthy”

Then we added in a few rounds of tapping using the “what if” statement.

“What if I could?”
“What if I am?”
“What if I am worthy just because I exist”
“What if it is not my fault?”
“What if I was just a little girl and shouldn’t have had to do all that for adults…”
“What if I am worthy now”

We did several rounds of this using the “what if” statement and what was under the worthlessness was all this fear- the constant fear she felt in her childhood.

“Even though I’ve always been scared from the time I was 5 and I had to take care of mom… what if I could love and accept myself now?”

“I’ve always been scared”
“I’ve lived in fear”
“I’ve been living in fear for forever now”
“I’m used to this fear”
“All this fear”
“I have been living in fear all my life”

After several rounds we added the choice statement:

“What if I could love myself now”
“Even though I’m scared, what if I could love myself”
“What if I could love and accept myself now…”
etc.

By the end of several rounds of tapping and peeling back the layers, she felt much less self loathing. It was a great relief to her. The self loathing is often a huge thorn in our sides that perpetuates binge eating. When we pull it out, I often see binges subside.

Using love and acceptance is absolutely key to healing trauma and food and body issues. I can’t imagine how we would ever heal without it. Combined with tapping on energy centers such as meridian points is a way to super charge the process.

Blessings,

Sandy

This is a follow-up to the EFT story posted on 9/17/11. In that article, “Katrina” used EFT to heal an early childhood memory. The result was noticeable relief from her food cravings. I saw her again today, and the results six weeks later were even more exciting. Here is her report:

I have not craved a chocolate bar since I walked through this door and you worked with me that first day. There’s been Halloween candy on the shelves of the grocery stores, and I’m not drawn to it at all. It doesn’t mean anything to me. It’s like, huh! there it is…okay.

There’s a vending machine at work. I just look at it now and know it’s there. But I have no feelings about needing to have the candy or chocolate from the machine. It’s just okay. I think back to before I started with EFT and I would never have envisioned myself having reached this place. Before, oh my God, I would be in the store and the chocolate was like a siren call — Reese’s, Snickers, Milky Way — why not all three? I would sit in my car and open them all and make sure they were near me so that, when I was driving, I could reach all the chocolate without having to take my eyes off the road. This wasn’t every day, but when it hit, there was nothing holding me back. And with Halloween candy, I would have a whole bag and wait till people were in bed… that’s how it always was.

What is amazing is how long this has lasted. I’ve had chocolate on occasion, for instance I had some chocolate milk… but that’s all I wanted. I haven’t even wanted a chocolate bar. It’s great.

We talked about the driven quality of the cravings in the past. Although she thought it was about the chocolate, actually it was about emotion, some feeling that she was looking for in the indulgence. Once that emotion was resolved, the chocolate had lost its power over her.

Katrina had started following a whole foods approach to eating, which would eliminate processed foods from her diet. She found it immensely easier to follow the plan and make the good food choices since she didn’t miss chocolate, candy, and other junk foods. Her concern was continued motivation — what would help her sustain this?

I find that a good approach to motivation is to discuss a person’s values. Why is this change important? What deeper core values would inspire you to make the effort needed and stick with it? I took notes on Katrina’s answers to these questions, and we used that language to address her fears of not following through.

Even though I’ll have to spend more time and energy to follow a whole foods diet, I love and accept myself… and I have a genuine desire to be more healthy.

Even though I’ll have to plan ahead and bring lunches and snacks… I can do it. I’m worth taking care of. It’s important to take care of me.

Even though it’s an effort to exercise daily, I’m highly aware of the quality of life that I desire… I want to be strong and maintain my quality of life through good health.

Even though I might get too busy or stressed, I can slow down and breathe… and make my health a priority. It’s important.

(You could tap the points in an alternating way, for instance, [eyebrow] “have to spend more time and energy…” [side of eye] “but I have a genuine desire to be more healthy,” etc.)

Katrina is a teacher and we talked about the many skillful ways she motivates and encourages her students. She also makes them accountable. If they get too far off track, she calls the parents. We laughed when we decided that if she gets too far off track, she’ll have to be accountable by calling ME to schedule another session!

The one-session breakthroughs are great, but for any lasting change, motivation and maintenance are essential.

“Katrina” came to me for weight loss issues. She said she could eat reasonably all day but towards the evening, she would lose control and, as she said, “when I get started, it’s hard for me to pull back.”

Her feeling was one of frustration, which was at a 10. So we began tapping.

Even though I’m so frustrated that I can’t control my eating in the evenings, I love and accept myself…

The frustration went down to a 4-5. What came up for her then was, she said, “a lot of sadness.” I asked her if she had any thoughts or memories associated with the sadness.

Katrina said that what was coming to mind for her was a very early memory. It was not a new memory — she’s always been aware of it. She said that she vividly remembered being a very small toddler in her high chair in the kitchen, and seeing her bottle on the high shelf — but because her mother was weaning her from the bottle, the mother wouldn’t give the little girl the bottle. Her mother’s words were, “That’s not for you.” Little Katrina was given a cup instead.

I asked her to tell me a little more about her childhood. I learned that she was the child of a single mom who had to work very hard to support her family. Katrina was to some extent raised by relatives and neighbors. Her mother was matter-of-fact and didn’t have time for the “nonsense” of children’s feelings. For the mother, it was a very practical matter to wean the child from the bottle. The mother thought she had put it where the little girl couldn’t see it. For Katrina, a sensitive child, the incident in the kitchen had left a terrible feeling of deprivation and hurt.

We returned to “the bottle story” and decided to tap using a modified Movie Method. There wasn’t a lot of action, but there really were a lot of feelings. As we tapped, tears flowed.

Even though I can see my bottle, but Mommy won’t let me have it, I love and accept myself… I love and accept the little girl that I was…

Even though Mommy says, “That’s not for you…”

Even though I’m just a little girl… confused… why can’t I have it? It’s mine!

Even though Mommy isn’t paying any attention to my feelings…

Even though Mommy didn’t understand how much I wanted that…

etc.

We talked and tapped with regard to what the little girl needed: someone to pay attention to her feelings, to validate what she felt, to take her seriously, and to understand her. It wasn’t even so much that the little girl needed the bottle — she needed empathy and understanding for her feelings.

Even though no one took her seriously…no one was really there for her… I love and accept this little girl.

Katrina felt much better and could now recount “the bottle story” without painful emotion.

I had asked Katrina to bring in a “temptation food” to tap for, and she brought a Reese’s peanut butter cup. We decided to get it out and see how she felt about it. Normally her craving would have been high, but just talking and tapping for the little girl inside her seemed to have made a difference. Her craving was only about a 2. We did a few rounds of tapping and she felt even more neutral about the candy.

I often make a hypnotherapy-type recording at the end of a session so that positive and nurturing messages can continue to support the healing process. In Katrina’s case, I knew that it was not yet time to “deprive” the hurt part of her by trying to change behaviors drastically. Instead, we gave good messages to the child part of her. We affirmed that she could have what she wanted now. Katrina could also “tap in” these good messages:

I have the control now.

I can have this if I want to — I can choose to have it or not.

I’m now paying attention to what the craving is about…

I’m slowing things down. I’ll breathe and pay attention.

What the little girl needed was someone to pay attention to her feelings
… and validate her feelings… and take her seriously… and understand her.

I love and accept my little girl self. I honor my child self for what how hard it was at times. No one to pay attention… no one to really understand… but I understand.

When Katrina came in for her next session, she said that it had been amazing. She had had no desire for chocolate during the three weeks since our last session. She said she gave the Reese’s away! She just didn’t want it. “It feels great,” she said. “I’m not feeling as if, when I see it, I’ll go into this caveman ‘gotta have it’ urge. That kind of craving is gone.” She had also noticed feeling generally calmer and happier.

There is more work to do, but Katrina is developing a relationship with the part of herself that was the source of her cravings. That part needed love, attention, and understanding. As our healing work brings this in, I expect that it will get easier and easier for Katrina to make good choices and eat in a balanced way.

I recently began using a simple little question that beautifully supports the healing outcome of an EFT session. It is usually near the end of the session when I sense the time is right to ask:

What is the kindest thing you could say to yourself about this?

After intensity and upsetting feelings have subsided, people are often remarkably wise and insightful about their situation. We can then weave their words into tapping sequences that close the session on a good note. Here are a few examples.

Overwhelmed and Stressed

My client is a student who called me because he is experiencing overwhelming stress due to an intensive summer course. Summer school packs a great deal into a few weeks and the constant pressure had him feeling anxious, panicky and having trouble sleeping, which of course hurt his ability to learn. We spent the session tapping for the anxiety in the body (tight chest, couldn’t breathe) and for all the feelings (fear, worry, anger, frustration) and for scary thoughts (“What if I don’t pass?”). At the end of the session, he felt immensely better and could take a deep breath.

So then I asked, “What’s the kindest thing you could say to yourself about this summer school experience?” He answered, “Actually, I’m pretty impressed with myself. It’s been hard but I haven’t given up. I can’t believe how much I’ve learned. And I’m halfway through, it’s going to go really fast. I can do this.”

We used his words in a tapping sequence, which then became his homework.

Even though this is really hard and sometimes I feel anxious… the truth is, I’m pretty impressed with myself! I haven’t given up. I’ve learned a lot… and it’s going fast now. I can do this.

Tapping with these thoughts on a daily basis helped him to calm down and stay more confident. As of his last report, things are going much better and he expects to pass!

Left Out and Not Belonging

I was working with an artist who had recently joined a group of painters who share studio space. Being the last person to join, she was feeling very left out of the friendships that had already formed. A shy person, she kept to herself a lot and then felt the pain of not belonging. As she said, “it feels like jr. high all over again.” This became a healing opportunity as we went back to some of the painful memories of being a shy teenager and used EFT to heal the pain and rejection. She reached a place of great compassion for her young self.

When I asked her, “What is the kindest thing you could say to yourself about the artists’ studio now?” her answer surprised me. She said, very thoughtfully, “Since I’ve been painting in the studio, my work has taken a new turn. It’s much more personal. I really think the vulnerability that I’ve felt there has opened up a new level in my art. And, actually, I’m really pleased with that.”

We ended with a supportive tapping sequence:

Even though I’ve felt the pain of being left out… not belonging… I love and accept my young self who felt that so deeply… and I’m bringing healing to this…

And even though it’s been painful to feel that vulnerability, I love the way it’s coming through in my art… I love this new level that has opened up for me… the truth is, I’m really pleased… this studio experience has helped me grow as an artist.

A Mom’s Guilt

A client I work with regularly was having some issues with her adult son. As we worked through her feelings with EFT, it emerged that she felt conflicted. On the one hand, she was always letting this son take advantage of her and that left her angry. On the other hand, the idea of setting boundaries and saying no felt completely unacceptable. So she was caught “between a rock and a hard place” on this. We dug deeper and she realized that the core emotion was guilt over some things that had happened when her son was a child.

After we worked on some specific events with EFT, and her intense guilt feelings had subsided, I asked her, “What’s the kindest thing you could say to yourself about this time in your life? You were a young single mother, coping with a divorce, all alone with a child… you were dealing with a lot.” With tears in her eyes, she said, “I would want to tell that young mother that she’s doing the best anybody could. She’s really a good mother. It was hard for my son and me both, but we got through it together. There was a lot of love there.” We ended the session with some EFT based on these positive truths:

Even though I’ve felt guilty for a long time, I want to be kind to my younger self… I want her to know that she really is a good mother… the truth is, I was dealing with so much… I did the best anybody could have done… and my son and I got through this together. Even though things were really imperfect, there was a lot of love there…

After this session, my client was able to set some healthy boundaries with her son. She no longer feels taken advantage of and better feelings are restored between them.

The Genius of the Set-Up

The EFT set-up phrase is in itself an act of kindness. We state that, even though we have these problems or difficult emotions, we accept ourselves anyway. As the above examples show, we can go even further to include positive truths and bring kindness and compassion to ourselves with EFT.

Betty Moore-Hafter offers EFT sessions by phone and by skype, as well as in person at her Burlington, VT office. She can be reached at www.CreativeEFT.com

This is a lovely little protocol to use when stressed.

You see, when you are stressed it is no good trying to create an EFT opening statement to tap on, all you will get will be a jumble of illogical thoughts, feelings, and stressed ideas about what you need to be tapping on.

You cannot create an effective opening statement while you are stressed. Stressed, confused thinking will only produce a stressed, confused statement that will only further deepen your stress and confusion as you struggle to wonder why nothing is happening.

Instead reduce your stress right down to zero by using the following protocol, then go back and think about what the real problem is and you will find the right opening statements popping into your mind in no time which will give you supremely superfast results.

What Are Freedom Spells?

The Freedom Spells were created by Silvia Hartmann to correct faulty thinking and get the energy system moving when it had got stuck using the EmoTrance aphorism: soften and flow.

The statements are created with a rhythm and a rhyme, just like spells, and act like pulses from the conscious mind which the unconscious responds to very willingly.

Here I have combined them with EFT to create an amazing protocol that reduces stress in no time and gives you the clarity and confidence to create effective opening statements for a traditional EFT session.

The EFT Freedom Spells Protocol

Take slow, deep breaths throughout and take your time with each phrase.

Tap on the Eyebrow Point while taking a deep breath in and out and say:
All of my regret, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

Next point, Side of the Eye:
All of my guilt, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

Under Eye Point:
All of my fear, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

Under Nose Point:
All of my doubt, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

Chin Point:
All of my frustration, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

Collarbone Point:
All of my anger, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

Underarm Point:
All of my sadness, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

Karate Chop Point:
All of my hate, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

And that is all there is to it.

When To Use The EFT Freedom Spells Protocol

This is not only an effective little protocol to use when you are stressed and preparing to tap, it is also lovely to do first thing in the morning while still waking, sitting on the side of your bed.

I also like to use it if I am in a hurry or rushing to my meditation, and I do it to clear myself before I sit quietly. It’s a lovely bridge between a hectic day and the peace of meditation.

The protocol is also good to do before bed. We think we relax during sleep but this only happens if we are relaxed when we go off. This really does help to relieve stress and enable deep clear restful sleep.

You may also find yourself in the day saying the phrases to yourself as negative thoughts and emotions arrive which is an excellent time to do them rather than waiting for later.

This is one of the major benefits of all self help energy therapies to be able to use them on the spot, instantly releasing the situation to prevent further problems down the road.

Someone gets promoted above you at work:

All of my resentment, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

A red bill freaks you out:

All of my worries, I now let you go, soften and flow, soften and flow.

Accompanied by a deep breath and a surreptitious tap or massage of the collarbone point will do wonders to release the stress of the situation and let you carry on with your day.

Breathing

When you are stressed you shallow breathe, always, if you were breathing correctly, from your abdomen, you would not be stressed.

The symptoms of anxiety and panic are exactly the same as hyperventilation, caused by overbreathing quickly from the chest, which unbalances the oxygen content of the blood and creates such unpleasant feelings throughout the body and which, for many, triggers panic attacks.

A deep breath from the abdomen, so you can really feel your hand being pushed away from your body, promotes deep relaxation, very quickly.

So, throughout the protocol it’s important to take deep breaths, from the abdomen, and not to rush.

Creating a Custom Made EFT Freedom Spells Protocol

You may create your own phrases for each point, though I recommend starting with these first as I have found they work universally and are at the root of a lot of stress.

Again, if you are going to create a custom list please do not do this when stressed! This is the whole point of the exercise, to have something to tap on to relieve the stress that is causing wrong thinking. So please resist changing the statements when you are already stressed and create a custom ritual for yourself AFTER using mine first.

The best way of doing it is to tap lightly on each point and see if a thought or negative emotion comes to mind and jot these down.

I do hope you gain as much benefit from the EFT Freedom Spells as I, and many of my clients, have already received. Do not be fooled by the protocol’s simplicity or brevity. This is a powerful method to reduce stress and promote clarity creating a perfect foundation for effective change work.

Nicola Quinn
www.nicolaquinn.org

In working with a phone client, we discovered an effective way to promote serenity. I had been working with this person on fear issues and we had been making progress. In spite of the progress, there were still some persistent fears. She reported waking frequently in the middle of the night with fears. These fears would escalate and grow in her mind preventing her from sleeping well.

After tapping on those specific fears, I was led to employ the Serenity Prayer, which is commonly associated with 12 step groups. I personally have used this prayer for years and never have been in any 12 step groups. I just find that it is a terrific, universal prayer for realignment.

In doing the tapping, I suspended using the Setup (we had been tapping for some time already). I went straight to the Eyebrow Point and began:

Eyebrow—Grant me the grace to accept with Serenity…

Collar bone — to know the one from the other.

My client responded beautifully to this and it was a great way to finish our session. I have to say that having made it up on the spot, I also borrowed the benefits of this. I now use this one for myself, as well as my clients.