“Sylvia surprised me by announcing that she had “fired” [her violin] teacher! She felt empowered and delighted that she had broken her own rule of “you have to take it, stick with it, don’t be a quitter.” She could reject those judgments and honor her feelings and needs…How beautiful to see her delightful child self coming through in her new freedom to play the violin for enjoyment, free of judgment, free of fear!”

“At one point, when talking about what the announcement of the divorce had provoked in my mind at the time, I instantly said: “The feeling that it would never be the same ever again”, and tears started flowing. We had to stop tapping. All day long, every time I would think of this key sentence, tears would roll down my checks.”

“What extreme condition (heavy OCD or anxiety or dissociation) sufferers need in the beginning is you helping them to work along with their symptoms (instead of fighting them) by being able to see the symptoms having a valid and positive function, and by allowing the appreciation and validation for this to develop in them, as well. “

“I think so often when we are ‘stuck’ with a negative belief process or trauma, what keeps it so locked in place is our lack of acceptance and love. When we shine the light of love and kindness through acceptance on an issue, it is like the sun burning off the clouds…”

“We talked and tapped with regard to what the little girl needed: someone to pay attention to her feelings, to validate what she felt, to take her seriously, and to understand her. It wasn’t even so much that the little girl needed the bottle — she needed empathy and understanding for her feelings.”

“During one of our sessions a client said, in passing, ‘I am a failure.’ I am always on the look out for people’s identity beliefs which often start with ‘I am’ … I only use the words that the client gives me to tap on, no clever reframing is required – just respect for the client’s experience and tapping to take care of the emotion…”

“Apparently our work together on the title alone had completely cleared the trauma. I realized that the title she had chosen was the crescendo of the event. That might not always be a good idea, but in this case, it worked wonders. Those nasty words, which had hurt her so much as a little child, had been completely neutralized and she could see the whole thing clearly and not take it personally anymore….”

“Surprisingly his intensity went down pretty fast after tapping on the guilt. Somehow the guilt was holding that abuse in place and after the guilt was gone, the abuse too lost its significance. It was, as if a heavy load had been lifted off his shoulders…”

“As she completed the sentences, she was tuning in more and more to the feeling: ‘I think it goes back to being very young… and I feel terrified… and no one’s going to catch me! And I’m going to hit! And it’s going to hurt! And it all makes me feel really sad….’”

“… the bakery was like heaven for Vivian. She felt safe, appreciated, useful, and loved by her mother. And it all was tied to cookies.”